I help people reclaim their Joy! Want to create Heaven on Earth?
It starts with following your Heart!
Discover the Magic of Hearthven
So, what is Hearthven?
I’ve been told by a dear friend that I am “the poster child for grief” - because I am so joyful.
She meant that if anyone could see how I carry myself, they wouldn't know that I've been grieving - hard.
I’ve had a really good think about this.
My husband passed away in September 2024 after eight years of slow, degrading illness. It was HARROWING at the time. And, yes, I “fell” into a deeper pit than I thought was possible after he passed.
After another close friend told me “this can’t go on, you are breaking all you hold dear”… I started looking for something that would inspire me to get myself out of my slump.
I found that "something"
I now have a system I call “The Hearthven Process”. It’s Heaven surrounding Earth with Heart at the Start. It is my unique mix of different systems I've discovered that work.
- Brian D. Ridgway’s Spellbreaking process
I am a Certified Spellbreaker, and a Mentor Leader in his work. As a Mentor Leader I guide other Mentors of his work in learning the Spellbreak processes.
What is a Spell? A Spell is that unconscious mish-mash of the beliefs, thoughts, ideas, emotions, physical sensations, clenching, conclusions, and decisions wrapped up from ANY traumatic event - ANY - from the first time you were told "No" - to the death of a loved one... all resulting in the unconscious scripts like "they will never love me" that operate in the background, wreaking havoc!
My first experience of a SpellBreak in front of Brian was at an online event, and it was EPIC. Powerful, and lasting. Here I sit, over a year later, migraine-free!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=67dyeP-cRW4
- The principles of Byron Katie’s “inquiry” of thoughts, and concepts from Eckhart Tolle, Greg Braddon, Einstein, Schrödinger - gosh I could take a whole page on all the concepts I've collected and played with in my years! Shoutout here if I missed you!
I have applied these personally and it is all powerful work!
So.... what has this got to do with trauma and grief - or Joy for that matter?
Trauma and grief are ... trauma and grief. They come from so many different aspects of life. Grief can show up in any area of life, and in every possible loss, whether it is a loved one lost to death, or the loss of a relationship, or the loss of a job!
And trauma is trauma... no matter the "size" or topic... from that first denial of a cookie, as a kid, to emotional, physical or sexual abuse. And it can affect people in the same ways - silently, deeply, subconsciously.
I am also an End Of Life Doula.
As an EOLD I am a non-clinical, non-medical support professional for those who are travelling through the last phase of life. This is practical, emotional, psycho-social and spiritual support.
My professional training with Preparing The Way in NSW has provided me with the art of holding space, and offering guidance throughout the end of life journey for those directly affected, as well as the community of people around them. Preparing the Way (www.preparingtheway.com.au) is the peak educational and advocacy body for End of Life Doulas in Australia! Helen Callinan and her team have developed a series of training programs, including the first Nationally Accredited Certificate IV in End of Life Doula Services in Australia, a thorough and integrative start for all End of Life Doulas.
The common denominator is how I hold Space and Presence.
And, how I help people find their joy.
This may sound unusual as an EOLD, however, finding Joy in EVERY part of life is wonderful - and finding Joy in that last part of Life's Journey can be so healing and fulfilling for the person at the end of their life AND those surrounding them.
All of these practices have re-established my own Joy.
My processes guide everyone I implement them with to re-establish their own joy - no matter the level of trauma or grief they share with me.
How does TG keep up with the changes in her husband?
So TG is a LONG term friend... and her husband has been 'diagnosed with dementia' - and the form of the "dreaded D" that has experts telling her he will forget her, and forget how to walk...
She has contacted me more than once... in the middle of a new crossroad, or in the middle of her realising she was feeling the loss of something she still had, although she no longer had it.
For her, it is that anticipatory grief... that sense of losing something that is still there. Different, but there.
I experienced that with my own husband... so I totally understand her emotions about this topic.
Each time she calls me, i find out where she is ... and meet her there. Not physically - as she lives over 4 hours drive away - No! Mentally - emotionally - in HER reality.
When I meet her there, in Presence and hold that Space... she can explore everything in the moment. And we do... we walk through the thoughts, feelings, emotions... the real ones like anger, sadness, fear.
She is amazing in her vulnerability to herself. And that is where I can meet her with loving compassion - without judgement. I can walk her through the thoughts, right to what is actually important in the moment - that doorway that will loosen the grip of the emotion.
And, I am not just fishing for that feeling - I am showing her in the moment how she can do it for herself ANY TIME she "needs" to!
At the end of pretty much every call, she says something to the tune of "I feel so much better, thank you! I always feel better and more able to respond to the next challenge when we speak!"
I love that so much.
How TP blasted through his grief... in one sitting ... to be in the same room as his mothers body.
TP is a friend. His mother passed away unexpectedly - just days before she died, he was out having ice-cream and pizza with her... laughing and enjoying each other. Then, she was gone.
The DAY before the funeral he asked me to sit with him for a bit to go through something and see if I could help him.
He wanted to be able to be in the same room as his mother. He just couldn't face that idea, and he was supposed to give a Eulogy - standing right next to her recently vivacious body, laying lifeless and empty beside him. He could not reconcile that idea.
I loved being there for him through this event.
Gently, over 45 minutes, we found the thoughts, ideas and emotions that were preventing him being fully present to his mothers passing - stopping him from embracing her new journey - AND HIS. Exploring this with him was an honour, as we gently, calmly moved around and opened the stuck perspective on the way he was seeing this event... with the sadness, loss and grief already present. By the end of our time together he was lighter, more open to possibilities, and ready to embrace the coming day. And open to a new kind of relationship with his mother!
He told me that the funeral was amazing. He greeted people. He welcomed them into the space where his mothers body lay. He gave the most heartfelt Euology where there wasn't a dry eye in the room. He was unburdened. He felt everything. and that was OK. And he was so grateful to have been PRESENT through that day, where he could see the love and beauty of that ritual for what it was... as a loving "see you later" and the beginning of a new chapter.
Not an end. Not a stop. A new start.
How GM had a new way of navigating her mother's final days.
GM is an amazing soul - open, honest and full of raw truth.
And her mother had a stroke. So she rang me whenever she needed to throughout her mothers final week of this life journey. Almost daily!
GM would be already crying almost every time her call came through. She was IN IT. And we would gently, lovingly, curiously explore everything that was there for her as it was there... in the moment.
That curiosity and willingness to go EVERYWHRERE that presented in the moment was the key to her amazing momentum for her own opening. It was such a gentle, loving, allowing kind of space we explored together... and knowing she could go anywhere and I was there to hold space for her no matter what - that meant everything to GM in the moment.
The powerful shifts EVERY TIME she rang gave her new footings upon which she had this experience of her mothers body changing, and shutting down. She had a new appreciation for HER PERSONAL journey - and how that shaped the experience of this particular life event (IN REAL TIME) in those around her, especially her mother. She could walk alongside her mother during this part of the end of life journey, holding her mothers hand, and not grasping at her own heart!
It was such an honour to be with her through that experience.
I hope she is writing her book about the experience!